There are “shoulds” and then there are “shoulds.” Some “shoulds” lead us into a place of peace and contentment. “You should empty the trash can when it is full.” “You should extinguish the campfire before leaving the camp site.” Complying with these kinds of “shoulds” brings about a good result. Noncompliance has decidedly negative consequences.
Some “shoulds” lead to confusion, guilt, and even condemnation. “You should decorate your house this way.” “You should drive thiskind of car.” “If you are a good person, then you should do this.” And, the one I have been hearing a lot lately, “You should return to work full-time now that your nest is almost empty.” Complying with these kinds of “shoulds” encourages self-doubt. Rather than living authentically, we try to live the way others want us to live.
I have found that I am at my best when I focus on loving God and seeking His plan and purpose for my life. When I am listening to His voice and living according to His word, then all of those “shoulds” just fade away. I am free to live an authentic life without fear or condemnation.
Let go of those “shoulds” today and focus on what God has for you.
“There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.” ~Romans 8:1