“The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships.” ~Anthony Robbins
One of the most powerful ways we teach our children is through modeling. Those darling kiddos are always watching us, taking note of how we do life. They pick up all kinds of mannerisms just by watching us. How we stand, if we cross our legs when we sit, etc. They also notice how we treat other people. Are we friendly to the store clerk? Do we hold the door for others? Are we kind to our neighbors? Our kids will very quickly begin to imitate our behavior. Hopefully this is a positive thing!
One area where we can really impact our kids is through modeling loving relationships. If we want our kids to be kind and respectful towards others, then we need to be kind and respectful towards others. If we want them to be honest and compassionate, then we need to be honest and compassionate. Our actions really do speak louder than our words.
If we want our kids to grow up and have strong, healthy marriages, then we need to show them strong, healthy marriages. We need to show them how to be loving, affectionate, respectful, and caring. We need them to see what it looks like when you put someone else’s needs ahead of your own.
We also need to show them how to appropriately deal with conflict. While I’m not in favor of parents arguing with each other in front of the kids, the reality is that it happens sometimes. When it does, then our kids need to see us properly resolve the conflict.
This whole area can be quite challenging and overwhelming, especially if you have been through a tough time in your own relationships. Pray and ask God for wisdom. Seek out other resources in your church or community, such as mentoring or counseling. Don’t give up! God desires for us to have good relationships, so allow Him to bring healing to your heart, and trust Him to guide you, as you guide your children. Nothing is too difficult for Him!