Communication. The biggest stumbling block in any relationship. How we speak to each other, both verbally and nonverbally, can either make or break our connections. Making sure that we are speaking the right language is a good place to start. It is especially helpful if we are speaking the right love language.
Several years ago, Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book entitled The Five Love Languages. This bestseller has since revolutionized the way that thousands of couples relate to one another (including me and my husband). Since then he has written several different versions of this teaching specifically geared towards parents and children of all ages. This information is also applicable in friendships and even in showing appreciation to others in the workplace.
I consider this a must-read for those who want to have better relationships. Dr. Chapman’s research and insight provide valuable information that anyone can use to build and improve their bonds with others. For more information, please visit http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
One thing that I quickly discovered in studying this material is that my primary love language is different from anyone else in my immediate family. My husband and children share similar languages with each other, but I am all alone when it comes to how I primarily prefer to show and receive love. I am an Acts of Service kind of gal. After many years of observation, I have come to the conclusion that the rest of my family prefers this love language the least. They do try to communicate their love for me; however, they don’t usually speak my preferred language. They tend to show me love using their primary love language. It can be quite frustrating. But when they do speak my language, it is awesome!
Because I am so different from my husband and children, I have had to learn to tell them what I need. It is unreasonable for me to expect them to read my mind and know exactly what to do. They have had to do the same for me so that I can speak their languages well. It can be challenging, but also very rewarding.
Communication is often a series of hits and misses. Sometimes we get it right and sometimes we aren’t even close. Learning how to relate to one another in a meaningful way is an ongoing process. The important thing is that we keep trying. Take a little time today to consider what love language you are speaking and hearing. A little adjustment can go a long way towards living simply loved.
